Words have far more power than most of us give them credit for possessing. If this were not true, motivational speakers would not pulls five and six-figure speaking engagements to light the fire under high-powered Corporate executives. But outside of the effect statements can have on you, some of the statements that fall out of our mouths provide a window into the type of person that we are. The bottom line is that there are just some things that successful people do not say because their thought processes won’t allow it. Here are a few of them.
Why is this happening to me?
I don’t care who you are, or where you come from. If you are alive long enough in this world, bad things will happen. Period. The natural order of things is in fact disorder. Murphy’s Law is as true today as it ever was. So, why is this happening to you? Because it is. It is a bit self-centered and narcissistic to believe that the universe is out to get you and only you with 7.1 billion people on this planet. I mean, who the heck are you? Winners do not sit around pondering why things having to go. Their only concern is what the hell do I do about it now? The mindset of successful people is to solve the problem not to dwell on it.
That can’t possibly work
The inventor of just about everything we use probably had to deal with one or more people in their lives that said this to them. Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, gave us one of the most powerful quotes of our time:
“Whatever your mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past.”
When you are working with the mindset of successful people, you look past the roadblocks and pitfalls to keep your eyes on the goal. Mankind has shown the ability to solve most every problem through the application of sustained thinking. If we can figure out how to take computers from taking up entire rooms to more powerful ones held in your hand, then you can figure out how to land a job. Speaking of jobs …
That’s not MY job!
When part of a team, winners realized that the important thing is that the team reaches the goal. It is rare that in any project or enterprise that every single task, duty and contingency is accounted for within the pre-conceived job descriptions. Therefore, for the team to reach its goal, somebody at some point in time will need to roll up their sleeves and do something that is not officially their job. It is THAT person whom we usually find advancing professionally. These type of people see that the important thing if the achievements of the team, and not whining because of one or two extra tasks that they may have to perform.
I just don’t have the time!
When a person claims that they do not have the time for important self-improvement activities outside of their standard daily responsibilities, more often than not, it is a matter of perspective. If you work a dead end job and even planning to start your own business, the difference in whether or not you are able to do it depends upon what you are willing to sacrifice. Successful people will sacrifice their social life, television, and even sleep in order to move closer to realizing their goal. There are 24 hours in a day, and most people work no more than 8 to 10 of them. That leaves between 14 and 16 hours to work on your business plan, pursue a new certification, or find a job you like better than the one you currently have. The winner will find one or two hours somewhere in there to get closer to that goal. Winners live the quote “I’ll sleep when I’m dead.”
Granted, there can be exceptions depending upon the situation. But by and large, successful people will more often than not find that extra hour, dig for that extra solution, accept responsibility and refuse to dwell on the negative.
So, which one are you?